As-salamu Alaikum,

First of all, welcome to Islam. May Allah make your journey easy and bless you with peace and guidance.

For assistance in learning about Islam, seek local mosques, Islamic centers, or online resources. Many imams and fellow Muslims are happy to help new reverts. Also, consider online platforms like YouTube, Islamic apps, or courses for learning.

For financial help, reach out to Muslim organizations, mosques, or charity groups that offer support to reverts in need. You can also ask for zakat if you’re eligible, as it’s a right for those in financial difficulty.

Make du’a and trust in Allah’s provision. May Allah ease your difficulties and provide for you in ways you cannot imagine.

As-salamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, dear brother/sister.

I’m truly sorry that you’re going through such a difficult time. Heartbreak and emotional distress are never easy, especially when it involves someone you care deeply about. Please know that Allah is always there to support you, and turning to Him in times of difficulty will bring you the strength you need.

What Should You Do Now?

When a relationship, especially one where deep feelings are involved, comes to an end, it can be very painful. However, it’s important to reflect on this situation from an Islamic perspective.

1. Acceptance and Patience (Sabr):

   • Allah mentions in the Qur’an:

     “And it may be that you dislike something although it is good for you, or you like something although it is bad for you. And Allah knows while you do not know.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:216)

   • Sometimes, we don’t understand the wisdom behind Allah’s decrees, but we must trust that His plan is always better for us in the long run, even if it’s difficult to comprehend in the moment.

2. Focus on Healing and Self-Care:

   • It’s crucial that you allow yourself to heal from this heartbreak. This is not the time to hold onto bitterness or to obsess over the past. Focus on strengthening your connection with Allah through worship, prayer, and remembrance (dhikr).

   • Engage in positive activities that help you move forward: be around loved ones who support you, keep yourself busy with work or study, and prioritize your mental and emotional well-being.

3. Seek Forgiveness and Repentance (Tawbah):

   • If either party has committed any wrong or unjust behavior, turning to Allah in repentance is key. If you feel guilty about any aspect of the relationship or its end, make sincere repentance (Tawbah) to Allah, as He is the Most Merciful and Forgiving.

   • Allah says:

     “Indeed, Allah loves those who repent and purify themselves.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:222)

4. Do Not Hold onto What Is Harmful:

   • It’s important to understand that Islam teaches us not to hold onto relationships that cause us harm, whether emotionally, spiritually, or physically. If the other person has clearly decided to end things, then respect their decision and avoid any actions that would harm your own well-being or go against Islamic guidelines.

Regarding Punishment in Islam:

From an Islamic perspective, a person’s actions and intentions are ultimately judged by Allah. If the individual who has ended the relationship has wronged you in a significant way, such as through unjust actions or causing harm, it is not for you to worry about their punishment. Allah is the ultimate judge.

However, if the individual has wronged you in any manner, such as by being deceitful or unkind, you should forgive them if possible. The Prophet ﷺ said:

“The strong person is not the one who can overpower others in strength, but the one who controls themselves when angry.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 6114)

You can make dua (supplication) for this person, asking Allah to guide them, soften their heart, and grant them what is best for them in this world and the Hereafter.

Take Comfort in Allah’s Mercy:

Remember, Allah’s mercy is vast, and He is always there for us in times of pain. Trust in Him and keep praying for peace, strength, and the best outcome for both of you. As you navigate this challenging time, know that your trust in Allah and patience will bring you closer to Him and help you heal in the best way.

What to Do Moving Forward:

• Let go of any resentment and forgive yourself and the other person for any hurt caused.

• Redirect your focus on self-improvement and spiritual growth.

• Pray for guidance (Istikhara) and trust that whatever happens is part of Allah’s plan.

May Allah grant you peace, ease your pain, and guide you towards healing and contentment. Ameen.

Wa Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

As-salamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, dear sister.

I want you to know that Allah’s mercy is greater than any mistake, and the fact that you feel regret shows that your heart is still connected to Allah. You are not beyond redemption—no one is.

Is It Considered a Sin?

Yes, in Islam, a marriage is only considered over once the divorce process is fully completed. Until then, the husband and wife are still legally married in the eyes of Allah, even if they are separated. This means that any intimate relationship with another man before the divorce is finalized is considered zina (fornication/adultery), which is a major sin.

But please don’t lose hope—Islam is not here to punish you, but to guide you back to Allah’s mercy.

What Should You Do Now?

The most important step is turning back to Allah with sincere repentance (Tawbah)

Allah says in the Qur’an:

“And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves [by transgression], remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins—and who can forgive sins except Allah?—and do not persist in what they have done while they know.” (Surah Aal-e-Imran 3:135)

A sincere repentance includes:
Feeling deep regret for what happened.
Asking Allah for forgiveness with a sincere heart.
Making a firm intention never to do it again.

Allah loves those who repent, and He promises:

“Indeed, Allah loves those who repent and purify themselves.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:222)

1. Pray Two Rak’ahs of Tawbah

The Prophet ﷺ taught us to pray two units of prayer whenever we commit a sin and sincerely ask Allah for forgiveness.

After praying, speak to Allah from your heart. Tell Him you regret it, ask Him to forgive you, and seek His guidance moving forward.

2. Cut Ties with the Other Man

To ensure you don’t repeat the mistake, it’s best to distance yourself from the man you had the encounter with. Shaytan always tries to tempt us again, so it’s better to remove anything that could lead to further sin.

3. Focus on Healing and Strengthening Your Iman

• Engage in more dhikr (remembrance of Allah)

• Read Qur’an daily (even a few verses)

• Surround yourself with good influences who remind you of Allah’s mercy

This is not about punishing yourself—it’s about growing closer to Allah and becoming stronger in faith.

4. Trust That Allah Has Forgiven You

Shaytan will try to make you believe that your sin is too big to be forgiven. Do not let guilt destroy you—if you have sincerely repented, Allah has forgiven you, and the sin is erased.

Allah says:

“Indeed, good deeds erase bad deeds.” (Surah Hud 11:114)

So, focus on doing good deeds and moving forward with a clean heart.

This one action does not define who you are as a person or as a Muslim. You are still worthy of Allah’s love, mercy, and guidance. What matters now is learning from this experience, strengthening your faith, and striving to do better.

May Allah forgive you, grant you peace, and guide you towards a life filled with His mercy and blessings. Ameen.

As-salamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, my dear brother.

First, I want to say may Allah bless you and keep you strong in your faith. I know this must be an incredibly difficult situation—your father won’t even speak to you, and your mother is struggling to accept your decision. That kind of rejection from family hurts deeply, and I truly feel for you. But remember, you are not alone, and Allah sees everything you’re going through.

Allah commands us to treat our parents with kindness, even if they disagree with our faith:

“…but accompany them in this world with kindness.” (Surah Luqman 31:15)

That means even if they reject you, you don’t reject them. Keep checking in on them, keep being respectful, and most importantly, don’t let their anger change your character. If your father refuses to talk to you, give him time, but don’t cut ties. Even a simple text saying, “Dad, I love you and I’m always here for you,” can have a huge impact later.

Right now, no matter what you say, your father may not listen. And that’s okay. This isn’t the time to debate—this is the time to show him, through your actions, how Islam has made you a better person.

• Be patient when he’s upset.

• Help them with anything they need.

• Show them that Islam has made you more kind, more loving, and more respectful.

Over time, he will notice the change, even if he won’t admit it right away.

Never stop making du’a for them. Your father’s heart may seem closed now, but Allah can soften even the hardest hearts. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ made du’a for Umar ibn Al-Khattab, who was one of the biggest enemies of Islam at the time, and Allah guided him. If that’s possible, then never think your father’s heart can’t change too.

Every day, pray:
“Ya Allah, guide my parents to understand me and soften their hearts towards Islam.”

Right now, it might feel like they’ll never accept your decision. But with patience and kindness, many reverts have seen their families come around—sometimes years later. Some even ended up accepting Islam themselves!

So don’t lose hope. Keep your faith strong, keep your love for your family alive, and know that Allah is always with you.

I’m making du’a for you, my dear brother. May Allah make this easy for you, bring peace to your family, and reunite all of you with love and understanding. Ameen.