As-salamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, dear sister.

I want you to know that Allah’s mercy is greater than any mistake, and the fact that you feel regret shows that your heart is still connected to Allah. You are not beyond redemption—no one is.

Is It Considered a Sin?

Yes, in Islam, a marriage is only considered over once the divorce process is fully completed. Until then, the husband and wife are still legally married in the eyes of Allah, even if they are separated. This means that any intimate relationship with another man before the divorce is finalized is considered zina (fornication/adultery), which is a major sin.

But please don’t lose hope—Islam is not here to punish you, but to guide you back to Allah’s mercy.

What Should You Do Now?

The most important step is turning back to Allah with sincere repentance (Tawbah)

Allah says in the Qur’an:

“And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves [by transgression], remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins—and who can forgive sins except Allah?—and do not persist in what they have done while they know.” (Surah Aal-e-Imran 3:135)

A sincere repentance includes:
Feeling deep regret for what happened.
Asking Allah for forgiveness with a sincere heart.
Making a firm intention never to do it again.

Allah loves those who repent, and He promises:

“Indeed, Allah loves those who repent and purify themselves.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:222)

1. Pray Two Rak’ahs of Tawbah

The Prophet ﷺ taught us to pray two units of prayer whenever we commit a sin and sincerely ask Allah for forgiveness.

After praying, speak to Allah from your heart. Tell Him you regret it, ask Him to forgive you, and seek His guidance moving forward.

2. Cut Ties with the Other Man

To ensure you don’t repeat the mistake, it’s best to distance yourself from the man you had the encounter with. Shaytan always tries to tempt us again, so it’s better to remove anything that could lead to further sin.

3. Focus on Healing and Strengthening Your Iman

• Engage in more dhikr (remembrance of Allah)

• Read Qur’an daily (even a few verses)

• Surround yourself with good influences who remind you of Allah’s mercy

This is not about punishing yourself—it’s about growing closer to Allah and becoming stronger in faith.

4. Trust That Allah Has Forgiven You

Shaytan will try to make you believe that your sin is too big to be forgiven. Do not let guilt destroy you—if you have sincerely repented, Allah has forgiven you, and the sin is erased.

Allah says:

“Indeed, good deeds erase bad deeds.” (Surah Hud 11:114)

So, focus on doing good deeds and moving forward with a clean heart.

This one action does not define who you are as a person or as a Muslim. You are still worthy of Allah’s love, mercy, and guidance. What matters now is learning from this experience, strengthening your faith, and striving to do better.

May Allah forgive you, grant you peace, and guide you towards a life filled with His mercy and blessings. Ameen.

As-salamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, my dear brother.

First, I want to say may Allah bless you and keep you strong in your faith. I know this must be an incredibly difficult situation—your father won’t even speak to you, and your mother is struggling to accept your decision. That kind of rejection from family hurts deeply, and I truly feel for you. But remember, you are not alone, and Allah sees everything you’re going through.

Allah commands us to treat our parents with kindness, even if they disagree with our faith:

“…but accompany them in this world with kindness.” (Surah Luqman 31:15)

That means even if they reject you, you don’t reject them. Keep checking in on them, keep being respectful, and most importantly, don’t let their anger change your character. If your father refuses to talk to you, give him time, but don’t cut ties. Even a simple text saying, “Dad, I love you and I’m always here for you,” can have a huge impact later.

Right now, no matter what you say, your father may not listen. And that’s okay. This isn’t the time to debate—this is the time to show him, through your actions, how Islam has made you a better person.

• Be patient when he’s upset.

• Help them with anything they need.

• Show them that Islam has made you more kind, more loving, and more respectful.

Over time, he will notice the change, even if he won’t admit it right away.

Never stop making du’a for them. Your father’s heart may seem closed now, but Allah can soften even the hardest hearts. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ made du’a for Umar ibn Al-Khattab, who was one of the biggest enemies of Islam at the time, and Allah guided him. If that’s possible, then never think your father’s heart can’t change too.

Every day, pray:
“Ya Allah, guide my parents to understand me and soften their hearts towards Islam.”

Right now, it might feel like they’ll never accept your decision. But with patience and kindness, many reverts have seen their families come around—sometimes years later. Some even ended up accepting Islam themselves!

So don’t lose hope. Keep your faith strong, keep your love for your family alive, and know that Allah is always with you.

I’m making du’a for you, my dear brother. May Allah make this easy for you, bring peace to your family, and reunite all of you with love and understanding. Ameen.

Assalamu Alaikum,

I can feel how heavy this must be for you. It’s so painful to see someone you love make choices that hurt the family, and it takes a lot of strength to carry this alone.

First, turn to Allah and pour your heart out to Him. Make dua for guidance and wisdom. Since you’ve already tried speaking to your uncle, consider having a gentle, honest talk with your mother. Let her know how this is affecting you, your father, and the family.

Before telling your dad, think carefully about the impact on his health. If there’s hope that your mother may repent and stop, protecting his heart might be best. However, if things don’t change, consider seeking guidance from a trusted elder, who could be someone from your greater family, or a guardian you trust — someone who is wise, understanding, and can provide support.

Remember, this is not your fault. You deserve support too, so reach out if you need someone to talk to. May Allah guide and strengthen you through this trial. You’re not alone.

Assalamu Alaikum, dear soul,

I want you to know that what you’re experiencing is something many of us go through. Struggling to stay consistent in acts of worship and feeling distant from Allah at times is part of our human nature. The journey to Allah isn’t always a straight path; it’s filled with ups and downs, moments of strength and times of weakness.

Sometimes, when we start doing something good, like praying more regularly or reciting more Quran, we expect to feel a powerful, lasting closeness to Allah immediately. When that feeling fades, we may think we’re failing or that we’re not worthy — but that’s not true. The fact that your heart cares about this, that you desire closeness to Allah, shows sincerity. It means your heart is alive and seeking.

Remember, Allah sees your efforts, even if they’re small or imperfect. He knows the battles you fight within yourself. If you find yourself falling short, don’t be harsh on your heart. Just return to Him, again and again. Every time you pick yourself up, you are growing closer to Him. Each attempt, no matter how many times you fall, is a step forward.

Focus more on the effort than the outcome. Make small, consistent changes rather than overwhelming yourself. Even if you struggle to sustain something, the fact that you keep trying is beloved to Allah. As the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “The most beloved deeds to Allah are those done consistently, even if they are small.”

Talk to Allah about your struggles — sincerely, honestly, and without formalities. He is your Creator, and He knows you better than you know yourself. Ask Him for strength and guidance, and believe that He listens.

You’re not alone, and there’s no shame in starting over a thousand times. Every step, every effort is noticed by Allah. Keep your heart gentle with yourself, and keep striving. May Allah grant you strength, patience, and a heart that finds peace in His remembrance.

You’re in my duas. 💖