As-salamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, dear sister.

I want you to know that Allah’s mercy is greater than any mistake, and the fact that you feel regret shows that your heart is still connected to Allah. You are not beyond redemption—no one is.

Is It Considered a Sin?

Yes, in Islam, a marriage is only considered over once the divorce process is fully completed. Until then, the husband and wife are still legally married in the eyes of Allah, even if they are separated. This means that any intimate relationship with another man before the divorce is finalized is considered zina (fornication/adultery), which is a major sin.

But please don’t lose hope—Islam is not here to punish you, but to guide you back to Allah’s mercy.

What Should You Do Now?

The most important step is turning back to Allah with sincere repentance (Tawbah)

Allah says in the Qur’an:

“And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves [by transgression], remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins—and who can forgive sins except Allah?—and do not persist in what they have done while they know.” (Surah Aal-e-Imran 3:135)

A sincere repentance includes:
Feeling deep regret for what happened.
Asking Allah for forgiveness with a sincere heart.
Making a firm intention never to do it again.

Allah loves those who repent, and He promises:

“Indeed, Allah loves those who repent and purify themselves.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:222)

1. Pray Two Rak’ahs of Tawbah

The Prophet ﷺ taught us to pray two units of prayer whenever we commit a sin and sincerely ask Allah for forgiveness.

After praying, speak to Allah from your heart. Tell Him you regret it, ask Him to forgive you, and seek His guidance moving forward.

2. Cut Ties with the Other Man

To ensure you don’t repeat the mistake, it’s best to distance yourself from the man you had the encounter with. Shaytan always tries to tempt us again, so it’s better to remove anything that could lead to further sin.

3. Focus on Healing and Strengthening Your Iman

• Engage in more dhikr (remembrance of Allah)

• Read Qur’an daily (even a few verses)

• Surround yourself with good influences who remind you of Allah’s mercy

This is not about punishing yourself—it’s about growing closer to Allah and becoming stronger in faith.

4. Trust That Allah Has Forgiven You

Shaytan will try to make you believe that your sin is too big to be forgiven. Do not let guilt destroy you—if you have sincerely repented, Allah has forgiven you, and the sin is erased.

Allah says:

“Indeed, good deeds erase bad deeds.” (Surah Hud 11:114)

So, focus on doing good deeds and moving forward with a clean heart.

This one action does not define who you are as a person or as a Muslim. You are still worthy of Allah’s love, mercy, and guidance. What matters now is learning from this experience, strengthening your faith, and striving to do better.

May Allah forgive you, grant you peace, and guide you towards a life filled with His mercy and blessings. Ameen.