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Let’s say a christian reverted to Islam but his parents were really mad about it, especially the father. Kindly what would you advise the best way for him to deal with this? He tried talking to the parents but the dad does not even want to see him. The mother accepted his decision but not wholeheartedly. Kindly, any scholar can help with this.
As-salamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, my dear brother.
First, I want to say may Allah bless you and keep you strong in your faith. I know this must be an incredibly difficult situation—your father won’t even speak to you, and your mother is struggling to accept your decision. That kind of rejection from family hurts deeply, and I truly feel for you. But remember, you are not alone, and Allah sees everything you’re going through.
Allah commands us to treat our parents with kindness, even if they disagree with our faith:
That means even if they reject you, you don’t reject them. Keep checking in on them, keep being respectful, and most importantly, don’t let their anger change your character. If your father refuses to talk to you, give him time, but don’t cut ties. Even a simple text saying, “Dad, I love you and I’m always here for you,” can have a huge impact later.
Right now, no matter what you say, your father may not listen. And that’s okay. This isn’t the time to debate—this is the time to show him, through your actions, how Islam has made you a better person.
Be patient when he’s upset.
Help them with anything they need.
Show them that Islam has made you more kind, more loving, and more respectful.
Over time, he will notice the change, even if he won’t admit it right away.
Never stop making du’a for them. Your father’s heart may seem closed now, but Allah can soften even the hardest hearts. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ made du’a for Umar ibn Al-Khattab, who was one of the biggest enemies of Islam at the time, and Allah guided him. If that’s possible, then never think your father’s heart can’t change too.
Every day, pray:
“Ya Allah, guide my parents to understand me and soften their hearts towards Islam.”
Right now, it might feel like they’ll never accept your decision. But with patience and kindness, many reverts have seen their families come around—sometimes years later. Some even ended up accepting Islam themselves!
So don’t lose hope. Keep your faith strong, keep your love for your family alive, and know that Allah is always with you.
I’m making du’a for you, my dear brother. May Allah make this easy for you, bring peace to your family, and reunite all of you with love and understanding. Ameen.